10 Best to Help You Change and Create a Life You Love

by Alli Polin on December 27, 2016

Each year, at the end of the calendar year, I look back at my analytics to see what posts on the Break the Frame blog resonated most with readers. Sometimes they’re new and oftentimes they’re evergreen. The most interesting and fun part is looking to see the story that they tell. This year, the answer is clear – people are seeking change and want to create a life of meaning and not one based on smoke and mirrors.

Here’s my invitation to you for the year ahead to create a life you love:

Deep and sustainable change can only really happen from the inside out.

Keep reading, keep looking for answers and then stop to look within. Let the change start within you. All the books and blogs and coaches the world can’t create your change until you take the first step. You are the leader in your life and may the year ahead be one in which you fully step into your personal leadership and create the life you want to live.

Thank you for letting me join you on your journey!

1) 7 Proven Strategies to Stop Being a Know It All, June 2015

At work and home, when a know-it-all is in the room, it puts everyone else in a very uncomfortable box: know-nothing. Honestly, knowing everything and having every answer is not leadership despite what many are told, it’s a blind spot.

2) What’s Your Leadership Start, Stop Continue?, July 2013

What is the top thing you need to start, stop or continue doing that’s holding you back from making the leap from where you are today towards your dream?

3) I Want Off This Hamster Wheel, May 2013

Ever wake up one morning and think to yourself:  “There has to be more than THIS.” It’s time to get off of your hamster wheel.

4) Forget Success, Think Satisfaction, June 2016

There is no ladder of satisfaction to climb. Success is something that’s only recognized from the outside looking in at your title and accomplishments. Satisfaction is an inner game.

5) Pulled in Too Many Directions?, November 2013

Time passes either way – it’s what you choose to do with your time that matters.

6) Leadership Challenge: Responsibility Without Authority, September 2012

You were hired for a reason and have a lot to offer. Don’t let responsibility without authority hold you back from being the leader that you want and need to be.

7) What’s the Absolute Worst Thing You Can Do As a Leader, September 2016

Ever notice that some leaders behave like big babies? There’s a definite link between childish leadership and bad decisions.

8) 10 Reasons You Gotta Stop Obsessing Over Facebook, July 2015

Consider if you could benefit from a pause away from your Facebook obsession.

9) The Key Difference Between Partial Truths and Whole Lies, March 2015

The truth doesn’t need more spin to make it palatable; the truth requires courage. Are you hiding behind white lies?

10) 20 Change Management Must-Knows to Shift and Thrive, November 2016

Project management is about process and at its heart, change management is about people. Here are 20 Change Management lessons from working over 20 years in change.

Bonus Alli’s Fave:

The Biggest Reason You Need to Tell Your Story, May 2016

When your story is weighed down with shame and fear, recovery is impossible. Be a leader, share your story, and set yourself free.

I’d love to hear from you. What change do you most want and need to make in the coming year?  

You tell me and in next week’s post I have some ideas to share too on this very topic to kick off the new year!

{ 12 comments… read them below or add one }

Terri Klass December 27, 2016 at 8:54 am

Love your inspiring posts and the way you challenge us Alli! I think we all do have a story to tell and we need to choose our best path and words to do it.

Happy 2017!



Alli Polin December 28, 2016 at 1:16 am

So grateful for your support and connection, Terri! Look forward to seeing you again in person in 2017!




Chris December 27, 2016 at 9:53 am

I need to find a position that allows me to do what I love. Wait as I write that I know that the power is within me to take the position I have now and focus on the parts I love. Truth is I feel trapped financially in my career. Seems that walking away to do something totally different for less money would be selfish and not putting my family first.


Alli Polin December 28, 2016 at 1:19 am


Thank you for sharing this. It’s something I know I’ve struggled with over the years and know many many others who have too. Unfortunately, I have no quick and easy suggestions but I’m 100% going to reflect on what I’ve learned working with others in similar situations and will write on it in early 2017.

In all sincerity, you are someone who I truly admire. I had the privilege of working with your team in person and have had a glimpse into who you are that day and over the years following your blog and journey. You are one who consistently leads with his values and with a service mindset not only at the office but with your family too.

Thanks, Chris.

All the Best ~



John Thurlbeck December 29, 2016 at 9:39 am

Alli – your posts always challenge and inspire me in equal parts.

Thank you for yet another year of going where angels fear to tread!

I wish you a brilliant 2017 and every success in all that you do!

Kind regards



Alli Polin December 30, 2016 at 3:18 am


Your connection and support mean the world to me. I wish you a fantastic year ahead and hope that your many adventures are all that you want them to be.




Lori Gosselin December 29, 2016 at 11:44 am

Hi Alli!
There are a lot of resources here. (I love coming here!)
I like this: “Let the change start within you.” This is my plan for 2017. I’ve been incubating a lot of change (does that make sense?) and I’m anxious for the new year to begin.
See you on the other side of NYE!


Alli Polin December 30, 2016 at 3:17 am

Hey there, Lori!

I’m excited to see how 2017 unfolds for you. Community building is something that is a clear strength for you – happy you’re helping others learn to do it well too!

Here’s to a year of change and strength 🙂




zafarmanzoor January 1, 2017 at 11:55 pm

Excellent thoughts. I am excited and see lot of opportunities in year 2017.
Zafarmanzoor,Sr. Exec, Pakistan.


Alli Polin January 5, 2017 at 4:48 am

Thanks for your comment, Zafarmanzoor! I hope that the year ahead is all you want it to be… and more.




Karin hurt January 5, 2017 at 8:41 am

So interesting to see the themes that are emerging from your top posts. Great idea. This is quite a collection.


Alli Polin January 6, 2017 at 7:26 pm

Thanks, Karin! I agree. Always important to take a look back before moving forward. All the best to you in the New Year!


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