In early 2009, I went on a journey to become a certified coach. It always bothered me when people hung up a shingle to sell their coaching services with no training at all, and I believe training and certification elevate your skills and what you bring to your clients day in and day out. After investing countless hours in research, I discovered a coach training program that resonated with my style, heart and view of personal leadership (how each of us shows up in the world.) Ultimately, I knew that CTI (the Coaches Training Institute) was the place where I needed to train and grow my skills. Just over a year after I started, I became a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach.
I’m a huge believer in Co-Active Coaching and Co-Active Leadership and am happy to share with you this guest post from one of the CTI co-founders, Karen Kimsey-House, in support of her new book with Henry Kimsey-House on Co-Active Leadership.
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Leadership. The word conjures up images of stalwart faced people (mostly MEN in my imagination, I notice) bravely leading a company, a country, a movement. Clear direction and purpose, inspirational speeches by people who have the position and power to really make something happen.
In writing this post, I wanted to get an understanding of how we collectively define leadership, so I consulted my online dictionary and found this:
Lead·er·ship [lee-der-ship]
noun
1. the position or function of a leader, a person who guides or directs a group: He managed to maintain his leadership of the party despite heavy opposition. Synonyms: administration, management, directorship, control, governorship, stewardship, hegemony.
2. ability to lead: As early as sixth grade she displayed remarkable leadership potential. Synonyms: authoritativeness, influence, command, effectiveness; sway, clout.
3. an act or instance of leading; guidance; direction: They prospered under his strong leadership.
4. the leaders of a group: The union leadership agreed to arbitrate.
Okay, maybe not so helpful. However, the synonyms are fairly telling: management, control, authoritativeness, command, clout. Really. CLOUT?????
No wonder we are in a bit of a pickle with leadership in our world today. It’s clear that our top down, command and control structures aren’t working. While hierarchy is a dandy structure for getting things done, it’s a breathtakingly ineffective at empowering people and calling forth their very best.
So, what if “leadership” was a verb rather than a noun? What if leadership was not defined by position or title but instead was measured by people’s willingness to respond and create solutions that were truly in the best interest of everyone? What if robust, engaged followership were actually considered a FORM of leadership?
What if we stepped, once and for all into the collective understanding that every single person who drew a breath had a role to play and was an integral part of resolving the challenges that face us? Yes, we all have DIFFERENT skills and abilities and it may be time to get over the notice that those who have MORE (however MORE gets measured) are the only ones who can lead.
In order to generate this shift, we must begin thinking about leadership as relational rather than structural and a collaboration rather than a domination. In other words, we must begin thinking about leadership as Co-Active.
So what is Co-Active Leadership and what is the opportunity that it offers? As a reminder, here’s our definition of Co-Active:
Co-Active represents the paradoxical balance between two primary energies of life:
Co: Relationship, holding, space, BEING?
Hyphen: Non-duality, PARADOX?
Active: Action, certainty, clarity, DOING
Applied to leadership, Co-Active invites an approach that is interactive and dynamic rather than static or dogmatic and focuses on responding in the moment CREATIVELY based on what is most needed, most useful for all right now in this moment.
Co-Active Leadership also understands that this capacity to respond, to create rather than react is nascent in all people. While the EXPRESSION of this capacity may differ depending on role the
CAPACITY is within us all.
Lastly, Co-Active Leadership orients from a place of service rather than a place of ego. Instead of emphasizing looking good and getting it right, Co-Active Leadership embraces authenticity and failure.
As I bring this post to a close, I realize that there many other distinctions of Co-Active Leadership yet to be expressed. I’d love to hear from you.
For those of you who have some experience with Co-Active Leadership, what distinctions feel most important to you? For those of you who are new to Co-Active Leadership, I’d love to hear what you think about what I’ve written and what resonates with you.
Originally published on thecoaches.com.
Karen Kimsey-House is the co-author of Co-Active Leadership and Co-Active Coaching. Additionally, she is the co-founder and CEO of the Coaches Training Institute (CTI) and a frequent contributor to the Huffington Post.
Learn more about Karen’s work at http://www.thecoaches.com or connect with her on Twitter @kkimseyhouse
Chery Gegelman says
Karin this is so true and so powerful!
We must begin thinking about leadership as relational rather than structural and a collaboration rather than a domination.
Thank you for sharing!
Alli Polin says
With you, Chery! Beautiful reframing, isn’t it?
Brian Smith says
Great read Alli – Thanks for posting. Love the concept of leadership as a “Verb” –
Alli Polin says
Fantastic and essential for us to remember to focus less on our titles and position and more on our being and doing – that’s where leadership comes to life. Thanks, Brian!
Terri Klass says
Looks like a fantastic book! I love the idea of “embracing authenticity and failure”. Sometimes leaders sugarcoat their failures instead of delving deeper and actively figuring out lessons they learned. It may be easier to blame others for our missteps rather than taking ownership and committing to a real change.
Thanks for sharing Alli!
Alli Polin says
Sugarcoating usually results in it coming up later (at an often inopportune time.) Learning from our experiences good and bad help us move forward with courage and confidence. I know you’re a huge supporter of helping others find the gifts in even the darkest of moments because that’s where change begins to take hold and transform.
Grateful, Terri! Great book I highly recommend!
Reginald Chan says
Hey Alli!
Good stuffs here. I am totally in with you especially with leadership + relationship. That is how effective leadership is ‘born’!
Awesome stuffs and just saved this in m Pocket for future reading / reference!
Have an awesome day ahead (and shared on Triberr too).
Alli Polin says
Thanks a ton, Reginald! Leadership is NOTHING without relationship. Many thanks for taking the time to read and comment too!
Best,
Alli
LaRae Quy says
I agree with you that coaches need to be trained before hanging their shingle out on a doorfront.
Leadership as a verb is a wonderful concept, and one that I believe in. Roll up your shirtsleeves and see what happens—get in the mix, and if changes need to be made, the active leader understands how and why the changes need to be made…first hand.
Great article!
Alli Polin says
YES! Get in the mix! Leading effectively from the 10,000-foot level all the time is impossible. Hip to hip and heart to heart.
Thanks, LaRae!
John Thurlbeck says
Just started reading the book and this post cemented early lessons! Leadership is about doing … and it most certainly is relational. I’ve found too many times that people ascribe power to titles, rather than be influenced by what the person is about and does! More often than not, we lead by influence and that is about being authentic and building trust!
Loving the book [will post a review towards the end of the week] … and I very much appreciated the article Karen.
Finally, I found something else about you Alli … so many congratulations on being a certified professional coach. I’m with you and LaRae on your comments about that … and shingles!
Kind regards
John
Alli Polin says
I love the Co-Active philosophy and glad it’s resonating with you too, John!
Thanks for your congratulations on my CPCC. It was worth all the time and effort. I went from being a good listener and mentor to truly coaching on a whole new level. Loved my studies with CTI. I passed my final exam in early 2010 and it feels like yesterday 🙂
Thanks, John!
Karin Hurt says
When great leadership is present people on both sides of the relationship are transformed. That’s what co-active feels like to me.
Alli Polin says
You got it. I lean in, you lean in, together we can create some magic.