I love working with people to create and increase their success (which more often than not actually translates into fulfillment, happiness, play and joy in their life.) When people pick up the phone and give me a call it often starts with a gut feeling that there is something more, something missing. After they pour their heart, passion and past failures out on the table, I’m inevitably asked: “OK. So, now what do I need to do?” They want me to tell them the 3, 5, 17 magic steps that will transport them from the chair they’re sitting in to a verified success.
Are you like my clients? Ready to make the leap to something more and want the secret formula? Here it is:
The biggest obstacle to your success… drum roll please… is getting started. It’s that simple.
Here’s a snapshot of a recent conversation:
Client: I’m been thinking about starting something new that I’m really excited about – I can hardly sleep since my head is spinning with plans.
Alli: That’s awesome! Tell me about it.
(Client gives Alli the scoop)
Client: But I’m not going to do it now. It’s not the right time since things are too busy.
What? So excited. So much passion. Can hardly sleep. Still a no-go?
I can read between the lines, you know, and what do I hear loud and clear? Fear, doubt, your saboteur – call it what you will, but I know Client, it’s not you talking.
You VS the Saboteur
Imagine that you have a saboteur, like a gremlin, that sits on your shoulder, whispering all the reasons why you can’t, you’re not enough or you will fail in your ear. The voice of the saboteur may actually be joined by your friends, family, or co-workers too, like a chorus of naysayers. It’s hard to hear your own inner-knower when the volume on the negativity is turned to max.
Break the Frame Action:
Kick the saboteur to the curb. Acknowledge that it’s keeping you in place of “less than” and tell your saboteur that it’s time to get packing. It may feel silly for a moment but i’s empowering and it works. You can’t kick your friends, family and co-workers out as easily but by letting go of the persistent voice of doubt inside of you, it clears the way to hear and act on the more positive, supportive messages that will fuel you on the path to success.
Procrastination Isn’t the Problem, It’s the Symptom
Keeping busy with anything and everything other than what will move you closer to your goal is a symptom of your fear and of your stuck-ness. It hides these truths: 1) Busy and productive are not one and the same. 2) Working hard and focusing on what matters most are vastly different. Bottom line, procrastination stops you from having the time that you need to intentionally move things forward.
Break the Frame Action:
Let’s get tactical: find five minutes, grab a blank piece of paper and get comfortable in quiet place. Draw the following four quadrant model on your paper (see image) and get ready to map your to-do list. Before you decide where to write each task, ask yourself: Q 1: Is this really important or is it just one of the many things I’d like to get done? Q 2: Am I really the only one that can / should tackle this task? Really? After five minutes it should be clear where you should be spending most of your time (top left) and least of your time (bottom right). Post this chart in your office as a reminder to close Facebook and get cracking on the top left (where your great, important, new venture should be listed).
Don’t Let Not Now Translate to Not Ever
Success requires a leap out of the comfort zone into uncharted territory. However, not every leap has to be extreme and not every idea that you have has to be all or nothing. There are many stories of people with an idea that got started small. They stared risk in the eye and took action anyway. Mr. Nordstrom didn’t dream of creating Nordstrom department stores when he opened his first shoe store. Michael Dell ran his business from his dorm room! Mattel? In a garage with scraps from their original business; picture framing! If you envision creating a multi-billion dollar enterprise someday, that’s awesome and a BIG, OVERWHELMING, REALLY CHALLENGING task. Don’t let big, scary or difficult become impossible.
Break the Frame Action:
What’s one thing you can do today to get one step closer to your dream? I realize that you see the 150 steps and beyond but truly ask yourself what’s first and focus there. In fact, we’re much more likely to take action when we tell someone what we plan to do. Take this challenge: Tell someone in the next 48 hours what your dream is and the one thing you’re going to do first to get there. Open a business, get promoted, lead a new initiative at work, become the PTA President – whatever it is. Ready to confide in a friend? Pick up the phone, fire up the email or set a coffee date asap. Prefer to tell a stranger? Email me. Want to tell the world? Tell us in the comments below.
Success starts with just one step – the first. ~ Alli Polin (Click to Tweet)
The first step is the scariest step because it’s marching into the unknown. Good news, any path you walk, or leap, you don’t have to go it alone; change happens through relationships. Build your team of people who will push, pull and encourage you to turn your “not-nows” into “I can.”
Is now the time for you to make the leap? For coaching, speaking or consulting, Let’s Connect!